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Ajofawjoifahg so much rage
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winterlive's journal, there's been a discussion going on about this article, Forbes Magazine's feature: Reasons Not to Marry a Career Woman.
winterlive sums it all up pretty nicely in her entry:
1. You are less likely to get married to her.
2. If you do marry, you are more likely to get divorced.
3. She is more likely to cheat on you1.
4. You are much less likely to have kids.
5. If you do have kids, your wife is more likely to be unhappy.
6. Your house will be dirtier.
7. You'll be unhappy if she makes more than you.
8. She will be unhappy if she makes more than you.
9. You are more likely to fall ill.
1. most of these stats are based on earnings and hours worked, but this stat is actually based on education. higher education = higher cheat rates. moreso if wife is better educated than husband, and even more if wife makes over 30K/year.)
gents, are you married to an uneducated woman who dotes on you?
good. because god knows you're an insecure, immature slob who can't raise your own children and doesn't have the sense to notice if your teeth are falling out. and no matter what, there's nothing you can do about that. it's your nature. you're a man. you're peter, from the family guy, you're homer simpson. but less funny and/or cool. and this being the real world, your wife's gonna leave you.
as cereta's commenter so aptly points out, it is not feminism that is responsible for this stereotype, people. men said it first. gloria steinham just repeated it. and imo, if you, as a man, do not find that sort of thing very, very insulting, then there is something wrong with you, and that something is your lack of self-respect.
i think my final position is this: be angry at forbes magazine.
we are not this ridiculous stereotype - not men, and not women. we do not have to accept this, no matter how many times they foist it off on us as being "natural". we do not have to settle. we can reject this, and we should, we all should. their expectations are not those of human beings.
Really, she says it all pretty thoroughly and frankly.
Just yesterday, I was reading a book called The Natural Superiority of Women, originally written in 1952 and then revised twice more by the mid 1970s. The author talks about how women have, throughout the ages, been treated as a second-class citizen, or even as non-human. They are taught from an early age of their own fragility and inferiority and of man's superiority and strength. They are brought up with the idea in their heads that they are nothing without men--they have no capacity to deal with the stresses of finance or business or anything that does not pertain to homemaking and child-rearing. Their main goal in life is to be a mother and a housewife.
And, just yesterday, I sat there and read this and thought, "Things have changed so much, for the better, since then. I'm really grateful that we live in a society now that accepts women as equals, if not superiors, to men in most areas of work and study." I feel like someone has punched me in the gut.
It's disappointing to realize that not everyone believes women are just as important to the advancement of society as men. Personally, I have to wonder why. Is it some sort of jealousy or is it just left-over discrimination which has been actively encouraged by certain influential groups to the point where it's grown out of its original shell?
I don't even know what to think, really. Its 2006, nearly 2007, and this sort of shit should not still be an actual issue.
What's your opinion on all of this?
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I can't get over how ridiculous this is!! I went back and re-read the article and its ridiculous. Like the marriage/children thing pisses me off so bad, but I think what really gets me is the cleaning, "baby-sitting," and the well-being. It makes me sick. "The house will be dirtier." Shit. And the father, my God, might have to watch the children. AND, oh my, poor little man needs his woman to take care of him. "Wives working longer hours do not have adequate time to monitor their husband's health and healthy behavior, to manage their husband's emotional well-being or buffer his workplace stress."!!!!!!!
W. T. F.
Since when is it the job of the WIFE to make sure ickle hubby is taking his vitamins and wearing his coat when he goes to work?! And OF COURSE, wives are also councelors and stress relievers. Ok, Forbes. Not cool.
*FUMES WORDLESSLY*
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I mean, really, when it gets to the point that someone is saying that the wife needs to "monitor their husband's health and healthy behavior" that's when I say that wives need to get paid better. Really, if a husband can't shell out the appropriate amount of live-in money for his wife when he asks her to do those things, then clearly he does not deserve a wife at all, he deserves a personal assistant.
And how are men not offended by this sort of shit? They have this attitude of "I am Man, I am stoic and need no one! Tarzan strong!" but then they flip it and make it that the woman has to tend to their every whim and need like they're little boys? Can't have it both ways, bucko.
Jeeze, this makes me steamed. Like a crab. With melted butter sauce. GRR!
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